MAYNILA, Pilipinas - Oo, oo.. Alam ko. Masakit talaga ang break up. Pangalawa na ata ito sa pinakamasakit na bagay na pwedeng mangyari sa iyo, sunod sa kapag tumama ung hinliliit mo sa paa sa kanto ng aparador--walang tatalo dun! Anyway, isa sa naiisip mo sa ngayon habang nasa breakup stage ka e "hindi ka na makakapagmove on dahil imposible ito." You are wrong! Akala mo lang yan! Pero I know mahirap, hindi madaling gawin, or it takes time. Sure, sure, it takes time. Pero how long? 3 years? 7 years? Don't fret my love! Dahil eto ang kasagutan diyan. I will tell you the fastest way to move on! In an instant! Ang bagong Unilever MoveOn Capsules made with the finest coconut jelly and North Korean ginseng extract na mabibili exclusive sa Watsons! ..... Haha.. Wag kang tanga. Walang ganung instant pagdating sa nararamdaman. Pero try mo. Baka tumalab.
Heto na talaga.
Isipin Mo Siya Ng Isipin
Oo! Totoo.. Sabi nila forget him/her to move on. Oo nga. Pero when people tell you to do it, the more mo itong gagawin. Pasaway tayo e. Diyan tayo magaling. Now I dare you to think of him/her. Pagsawaan mo siya. Think of how much time you are wasting thinking of this person. And you know, studies show that when you repeatedly think (write or say) a word, you will have this weird thinking na this word doesn't have a meaning. It's called semantic saturation. A psychological thingy. Google it up. Malay mo. Manawa ung utak mo kakaisip sa kanya. Pero as much as possible stick to "forget him/her." :D
Iwasang Magisa
I know minsan masarap magmuni-muni at magdrama kapag you are experiencing loneliness. Parang you are in a drama series na ikaw ang bida, and api and mag-isa. It's okay lang naman to do it, kasi it's a way for your mind to flush out all that pain that you may be feeling right now. Pero a day or two will do. Again, 1-2 days lang yan. Anything longer than that should be avoided. You've cried enough. Spent your time alone long enough. The 3rd day? Avoid being alone. As much as possible you should not let yourself be alone kahit pumupupu ka pa. Kasi any time alone will make you hear the "love song music" playing in the background again, tapos you will start thinking how lonely you are and so and so forth. Tapos? Ano? Edi hindi ka na nakapag-move nun! And being with family and friends and whoever (whatever) is a good, good thing! Makes you realize how happy the world is even without your ex.
Acceptance
Tama. Acceptance. Tanggapin mo ang katotohanan na wala na kayo. I am sure there is 20% to 40% chance na you are thinking or hoping na magkakaayos pa kayo. Well, kung meron man, leave it to him/her, if you really want to move on, tanggapin mo na wala na talaga siya. Hindi mo hawak ang future, kapag sinabi nating acceptance it means many things: pagkalimot, pagbabago at pagparty-party! Pagkalimot kasi you will forget what happened-good or bad. Pagbabago kasi you will be someone new-a person without him/her. Pagparty-party kasi finally, natanggap mo na na you are officially single! Weeee!
Burahin Mo Siya Sa Isip, Sa Salita, At Sa Gawa
Dito mo kakailanganin ang delete button! Delete sa phone, sa Facebook, sa email, sa Viber.. saan pa ba? Sa tattoo mo! Everything na merong magpapaalala sa'yo sa kanya needs to be deleted or trashed or erased or trashed or burnt or trashed. GET THE PERSON OUT OF YOUR LIFE! And start by stopping yourself as a stalker. This actually the easiest thing to do. This is controllable e. You can delete the person on your phone or Facebook. Scared to be called 'bitter'? Who freaking cares! Hindi ka bitter when you do that. You are just strong enough to face the fact that the person is not part of life anymore! Tapos ngiti. :)
'Wag Humanap ng Kapalit
Isa sa malaking-malaking (napakalaking) pagkakamali ng maraming brokenhearted sa ngayon is yung maghanap ng kapalit. Sabi daw ng iba "YOU WOULDN'T GO TO THE SHOE STORE TO REPLACE YOUR SHOES WITH YOUR FEET BARENAKED, WOULD YOU?" This is fucking insane! It the same as "humanap ka ng kapalit habang nandiyan pa yung tao (or yung feeling) kesa naman mabakante ka (or mabakante ung feeling mo.)" Piece of shizzzzz! The best way to move on is to erase, let it that way for some time and let it be replaced without you forcing yourself into it. Hindi "erase and replace." Dapat may period in between na wala talagang laman. It will make you more human. So wag humanap ng kapalit -- give time for your heart to heal and then let the love begin.
Humanap ng Bago
Hindi kapalit ok? Kakasabi lang e. Humanap ng bago sa buhay mo. Either organization, kaibigan, pagkakaabalahan or simpleng gamit sa bahay. Kapag meron kasing bago sa atin, nafofocus ung utak natin dun. Diba? And the busier you are, the better you can move on. :)
Feel Good About Yourself
Yes! Kung kasalanan niya - "Hindi ikaw ang nawalan, siya." Kung kasalanan mo - "People make mistakes, kung hindi niya matanggap yun. We aren't meant to be." Don't feel sorry about yourself. Wag kang magpakapathetic! You are worth more than who you think you are! And look at the mirror. Oha. T*nginang looks yan! Crush ng bayan. (asa) Well, wag lalaki ulo mo, pero what I am saying is, you are special. Find your best asset or enhance it. Tapos labas and show it to the world. Wag lang shempre kung yang asset mo is your brain. Hindi pa zombie apocalypse, ma'am/sir.
To sum it up, moving on takes time and a lot of patience. Hindi siya madaling gawin kagaya ng iniisip mo na "mabilis" pero doing these tips make it "mabilis" in a sense na this is the fastest way you can move on in a short period of time.
Pero at the end of the day, it is still your choice to do whatever you wish. Walang kasagutan pagdating sa sakit ng pagkahiwalay, and the only person who can understand what you feel is the stronger you na nagtatago sa loob mo. The very reason why you are still living kahit a part of you already died.
Remember this, moving on is never easy, pero it's your choice if you will make your life miserable or not while doing it.
Tip ko sa'yo after reading this blog post? Eat! Sarap kumain kapag napapagod ka na kakasip no?
Call Me Jed™ (cc) 2013. This work is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution-NonCommercial-NoDerivs 3.0 Philippines License.
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Isipin Mo Siya Ng Isipin
Oo! Totoo.. Sabi nila forget him/her to move on. Oo nga. Pero when people tell you to do it, the more mo itong gagawin. Pasaway tayo e. Diyan tayo magaling. Now I dare you to think of him/her. Pagsawaan mo siya. Think of how much time you are wasting thinking of this person. And you know, studies show that when you repeatedly think (write or say) a word, you will have this weird thinking na this word doesn't have a meaning. It's called semantic saturation. A psychological thingy. Google it up. Malay mo. Manawa ung utak mo kakaisip sa kanya. Pero as much as possible stick to "forget him/her." :D
Iwasang Magisa
I know minsan masarap magmuni-muni at magdrama kapag you are experiencing loneliness. Parang you are in a drama series na ikaw ang bida, and api and mag-isa. It's okay lang naman to do it, kasi it's a way for your mind to flush out all that pain that you may be feeling right now. Pero a day or two will do. Again, 1-2 days lang yan. Anything longer than that should be avoided. You've cried enough. Spent your time alone long enough. The 3rd day? Avoid being alone. As much as possible you should not let yourself be alone kahit pumupupu ka pa. Kasi any time alone will make you hear the "love song music" playing in the background again, tapos you will start thinking how lonely you are and so and so forth. Tapos? Ano? Edi hindi ka na nakapag-move nun! And being with family and friends and whoever (whatever) is a good, good thing! Makes you realize how happy the world is even without your ex.
Acceptance
Tama. Acceptance. Tanggapin mo ang katotohanan na wala na kayo. I am sure there is 20% to 40% chance na you are thinking or hoping na magkakaayos pa kayo. Well, kung meron man, leave it to him/her, if you really want to move on, tanggapin mo na wala na talaga siya. Hindi mo hawak ang future, kapag sinabi nating acceptance it means many things: pagkalimot, pagbabago at pagparty-party! Pagkalimot kasi you will forget what happened-good or bad. Pagbabago kasi you will be someone new-a person without him/her. Pagparty-party kasi finally, natanggap mo na na you are officially single! Weeee!
Burahin Mo Siya Sa Isip, Sa Salita, At Sa Gawa
Dito mo kakailanganin ang delete button! Delete sa phone, sa Facebook, sa email, sa Viber.. saan pa ba? Sa tattoo mo! Everything na merong magpapaalala sa'yo sa kanya needs to be deleted or trashed or erased or trashed or burnt or trashed. GET THE PERSON OUT OF YOUR LIFE! And start by stopping yourself as a stalker. This actually the easiest thing to do. This is controllable e. You can delete the person on your phone or Facebook. Scared to be called 'bitter'? Who freaking cares! Hindi ka bitter when you do that. You are just strong enough to face the fact that the person is not part of life anymore! Tapos ngiti. :)
'Wag Humanap ng Kapalit
Isa sa malaking-malaking (napakalaking) pagkakamali ng maraming brokenhearted sa ngayon is yung maghanap ng kapalit. Sabi daw ng iba "YOU WOULDN'T GO TO THE SHOE STORE TO REPLACE YOUR SHOES WITH YOUR FEET BARENAKED, WOULD YOU?" This is fucking insane! It the same as "humanap ka ng kapalit habang nandiyan pa yung tao (or yung feeling) kesa naman mabakante ka (or mabakante ung feeling mo.)" Piece of shizzzzz! The best way to move on is to erase, let it that way for some time and let it be replaced without you forcing yourself into it. Hindi "erase and replace." Dapat may period in between na wala talagang laman. It will make you more human. So wag humanap ng kapalit -- give time for your heart to heal and then let the love begin.
Humanap ng Bago
Hindi kapalit ok? Kakasabi lang e. Humanap ng bago sa buhay mo. Either organization, kaibigan, pagkakaabalahan or simpleng gamit sa bahay. Kapag meron kasing bago sa atin, nafofocus ung utak natin dun. Diba? And the busier you are, the better you can move on. :)
Feel Good About Yourself
Yes! Kung kasalanan niya - "Hindi ikaw ang nawalan, siya." Kung kasalanan mo - "People make mistakes, kung hindi niya matanggap yun. We aren't meant to be." Don't feel sorry about yourself. Wag kang magpakapathetic! You are worth more than who you think you are! And look at the mirror. Oha. T*nginang looks yan! Crush ng bayan. (asa) Well, wag lalaki ulo mo, pero what I am saying is, you are special. Find your best asset or enhance it. Tapos labas and show it to the world. Wag lang shempre kung yang asset mo is your brain. Hindi pa zombie apocalypse, ma'am/sir.
To sum it up, moving on takes time and a lot of patience. Hindi siya madaling gawin kagaya ng iniisip mo na "mabilis" pero doing these tips make it "mabilis" in a sense na this is the fastest way you can move on in a short period of time.
Pero at the end of the day, it is still your choice to do whatever you wish. Walang kasagutan pagdating sa sakit ng pagkahiwalay, and the only person who can understand what you feel is the stronger you na nagtatago sa loob mo. The very reason why you are still living kahit a part of you already died.
Remember this, moving on is never easy, pero it's your choice if you will make your life miserable or not while doing it.
Tip ko sa'yo after reading this blog post? Eat! Sarap kumain kapag napapagod ka na kakasip no?
Call Me Jed™ (cc) 2013. This work is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution-NonCommercial-NoDerivs 3.0 Philippines License.